A little while ago my mother called me up. She still lives in a northern town and we talk about once a week. We talked about the usual stuff and then she said to me: "You know I'm really sorry that I still have to work. If I was retired, I could take Daniel for 3 or 4 months, and he wouldn't see you and then I could fix him for you." She said this in her "pretend I'm a nurturing mom" tone of voice. First I had to attend to the 3-alarm fire raging in my head. And then I told her what I thought of that scenario! Well, I wish I had anyway. In truth I was too stunned to respond at all, so all she heard was silence.
I've always known she felt this way, that I ruined my son. That it was something I did that made him like this. Oh, and the smart thing? That is not a plus in her book. She actually told me that I shouldn't allow him to learn anything else. That it wasn't good for him. What am I supposed to do? Give the kid a lobotomy because she hates chess?!
Anyway now I have proof. And if I still had a shrink I would spend a whole session just on that conversation. But I don't, she moved to Florida. You don't think I drove her away do you?
But why/how do you still talk to her? I quit speaking to mine several months ago. Now I feel worse than ever.
Maybe that is why you stick with it. B/c you know how awful it would be it you didn't.
Posted by: Melynn G | May 23, 2008 at 01:02 PM
But why/how do you still talk to her? I quit speaking to mine several months ago. Now I feel worse than ever.
Maybe that is why you stick with it. B/c you know how awful it would be it you didn't.
Posted by: Melynn G | May 23, 2008 at 01:02 PM
But why/how do you still talk to her? I quit speaking to mine several months ago. Now I feel worse than ever.
Maybe that is why you stick with it. B/c you know how awful it would be it you didn't.
Posted by: Melynn G | May 23, 2008 at 01:02 PM
Obviously I didn't meant to post that three times! Sorry.
Posted by: Melynn G | May 23, 2008 at 01:03 PM